How Many Flower Girl In A Wedding

How Many Flower Girls In A Wedding: Explained

Last Updated on April 24, 2024 by Kimberlee Johnson

Weddings are delightful occasions, and an enchanting feature that consistently wins the hearts of all attendees is the presence of flower girls. 

These adorable young ladies, dressed in their finest attire, add a touch of innocence and grace to the ceremony. But how many flower girls are in a wedding? 

Drawing from my experiences attending numerous weddings, I’ll shed some light on this question and guide for creating a memorable and harmonious bridal procession. 

How Many Flower Girls Should You Have In A Wedding?

Girl Walking on the Isle

It’s typical to see two or three flower girls at most weddings, but if you’re planning a big event with lots of young girls in your family or among friends, you could even have up to four.

Given their young age, a larger number might lead to unexpected excitement. 

“Every flower is a soul blossoming in nature.”

Gerard De Nerval, French Writer

Some people decide not to have flower girls for smaller or more relaxed ceremonies. 

The bottom line is that your decision should reflect what you and your partner envision for your special day. But how to include your nieces and nephews in the wedding?

What Is An Acceptable Age For A Flower Girl?

There is no strict rule when deciding how old a flower girl [1] should be. However, it’s generally suggested to choose girls between the ages of 4 and 10.

Girls within this age range have a charming innocence that adds to the wedding. 

They are usually old enough to follow instructions and walk confidently, yet young enough to capture everyone’s hearts. It’s important to consider each child’s maturity and comfort level. 

The goal is to select a flower girl who will enjoy the experience and fulfill her role with joy and grace.

What To Consider When Choosing A Flower Girl For Your Wedding? 

1. Age

Flower girls typically range in age from about 3 to 8 years old. 

The duties of a flower girl can be overwhelming for children younger than this, while older children prefer a more mature role, like a junior bridesmaid.

2. Maturity Level

Every child is different, so consider their individual personality and maturity level. Will they handle the pressure and stay focused during the ceremony?

3. Relationship To The Couple

Flower girls are usually close relatives or children of very close friends. Consider the special bond you share with the child and her family.

4. Parental Approval

Always discuss the role with the child’s parents before asking the child. They will know whether their child can handle the responsibility and will be able to help her prepare for the day.

5. Comfort In Large Crowds

Some children may become shy or anxious in front of large crowds. If your wedding is big, ensure your flower girl is comfortable with this.

6. The Child’s Interest

It’s important to ensure the child is excited about the role. If they are uninterested or unwilling, it could lead to issues on the big day.

7. Size Of The Wedding

The size of the wedding could impact the number of flower girls you choose. Smaller weddings may only require one, while larger weddings may accommodate multiple flower girls.

What Does A Bride Typically Pay For A Flower Girl?

The bride typically pays for the flower girl’s hairstyle and provides floral adornments like a flower crown, hair wreaths, and a basket of petals. 

The bride is also responsible for any gifts or tokens of appreciation given to the flower girl as a gesture of gratitude for her participation in the wedding. 

Although specifics can vary, the bride’s role is to ensure the flower girl feels special and well taken care of on a special day.

Find out how you can ask bridesmaids to pay for their dresses here.

Does The Bride Normally Pay For Flower Girl Dresses?

Flower Girl Walking on the Isle

Traditionally, the bride and groom pay for the flower girl’s dresses. They typically select and purchase the dresses, ensuring they match the wedding theme and fit the girls comfortably. 

Although, it’s important to discuss and confirm this with the bride and groom to ensure everything is clear.

“When choosing the number of flower girls, remember that it’s not about the quantity but the quality of their presence. Let their laughter, innocence, and pure hearts add an ethereal touch to your special day.”

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Being open and transparent about financial responsibilities ensures a smooth and enjoyable wedding experience for everyone involved.

Also Read: How Much To Spend On Your Groomsmen Gifts?

Does A Flower Girl Go To The Rehearsal Dinner?

It is not customary for a flower girl to attend the rehearsal dinner, but they can be invited too. 

The flower girl is often young and not directly involved in the rehearsal proceedings, so she is not expected to be present. 

However, it’s important to note that every wedding is unique, and some couples may choose to include the flower girl and her family in the rehearsal dinner to make them feel more involved. 


How old must a junior bridesmaid be?

The normal age range for a junior bridesmaid [2] is 8-16. Some couples may choose to have younger junior bridesmaids, while others prefer older ones.

What can be substituted for a flower girl?

An alternative to having a flower girl is to have a “ring bearer” or “flower granny. 

You can also include your pet walking down the aisle instead, wearing floral accessories, or carrying a small basket of flowers.

In Summary

Based on my firsthand experience and observations, the number of flower girls in a wedding can vary based on the event’s size and the availability of young girls in your circle. 

Generally, having two or three flower girls is quite common and adds an adorable touch to the ceremony. 

But if you’re organizing a larger affair and are fortunate enough to have many young girls in your family or among friends, consider including up to four flower girls. 

Remember to select flower girls between the ages of 4 and 10, as this age range ensures they can handle their responsibilities confidently and adds to the overall charm of the occasion. 


Kimberlee Johnson
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